How to be the best friend ever

Every ladies know that the bond between best friends is a strong one. Even among your close friends, there will be some you seem closer with. These are your best friends. 

You share a lot of secrets with best friends, even those that should be classed personal. Friendship requires a lot of tips so as to keep the relationship going without any issues that could probably end it. 

One of the tips is to stop competing with each other. 

Every ladies is equally talented and pretty in their own way of doing things. There is no need to be jealous of one another because that jealousy could bring about an end to your hard-earned friendship.

Another tip is to always tell her your sincere opinion about whatever she wishes to know. To those who think apologizing to someone you have wronged is hard, you are probably right. If you want to know what is harder, trying telling the truth. There are some friends who would like more than anything to know how you truly feel about an issue. Mind you, when doing this, you have to be careful of how you present your views to her. Let's take for an example. A friend of yours happens to bake a cake and she gives you some to taste. After you tasted it, you found out that she didn't bake it properly like she should have. Instead of you to tell her straight to her face that the cake was not properly baked, you can just clue her in on how to improve her baking skills. Mind you, you have to be careful when doing this. 

Never stop with the compliments Give her sincere credit and compliments if you really like or appreciate what she’s doing. This doesn’t mean you have to like all her pictures on Facebook, but everyone likes to hear a nice word every now and then. Friends pay attention to each other, even if it's something small.

Celebrate together A good friend happily celebrates her friend’s achievements. If your friend gets the highest grade in school, congratulate her and celebrate! This is true for any goals she has been working hard to achieve, not just grades. She put the work in and now you can both be proud of the results!

Supporting each other and being there for each other is what keeps your friendship bond strong, and makes it stronger. Be the best friend ever.

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HOW TO ATTRACT A GIRL WHO ALREADY HAS A BOYFRIEND

                      HOW TO ATTRACT A GIRL WHO ALREADY HAS A BOYFRIEND

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you met a beautiful girl and got along with her incredibly well, just to find out she already had a boyfriend? Well, let’s face it: attractive girls are usually already taken.

This means that you have competition right from the very beginning. Don’t worry just yet, though. Believe it or not, you can learn how to attract a girl who already has a boyfriend and still hook up with her in the end.

So, are you ready to learn how to attract a girl who already has a boyfriend? Then let’s begin!

Connect with her on an intensely emotional level.

The real key to attracting a girl who already has a boyfriend would be to simply use a lot of emotions. There is no chance in hell for you to rationalize with a girl and convince her to leave her boyfriend to be with you – remember that. So, what you have to do instead is use the right emotions to make her feel happy whenever she is around you. Once she realizes how much happier she is in your presence compared to when she is with her boyfriend, she will start wondering why she is with the guy she is currently with in the first place.

Let her comparison shop.

If you want to learn how to win a girls heart who has a boyfriend subtly, you have to get the girl to talk to you about her current relationship.

Once you do this, she is sure to mention some of her boyfriend’s shortcomings. When this happens, try to make yourself look better by capitalizing on those shortcomings. Remember: nobody is flawless. Every girl has been lied to by a boyfriend or has felt neglected in a relationship at one point or another. For example, the boyfriend could either be overbearing / dominant or a pushover. So, bring her current relationship problems to the fore and try to show her that you would treat her much better. Once you establish this, show some examples of similar situations and times where you treated a girl right. She is sure to fall in love with you in no time.

Amplify her boyfriend’s weaknesses even more.

Although you already capitalized on her boyfriend’s shortcomings, try to amplify his weaknesses even more by asking her what her perfect guy would be like. Although these are sneaky ways to attract a girl who already has a boyfriend, they actually work. See, once a girl realizes how many shortcomings and weaknesses her boyfriend has, she will start to compare him to the ideal guy that she has in her head. Her boyfriend will definitely look flawed in comparison and will end up in a very disadvantaged position (he might even get friend-zoned!). Ultimately, the key here would be to simply bypass her switches of guilt in the end, so that she won’t feel bad leaving her boyfriend for you.

Become an alpha male.

If you want to learn how to get a girl who has a boyfriend and actually succeed in the end, you have to become a real alpha male and really be able to attract girls, in general. All girls are attracted to confident guys with high social status – remember that. This is because they feel safe in their presence and like it when guys make up their own minds about things. So, in order to amp up your levels of attractiveness and win over the girl with the boyfriend with ease, you have to become a real alpha male first.

Psyche yourself up for the kill.

During this step, you will have to look at yourself and ask yourself why you want to attract a girl who already has a boyfriend to begin with. You will also have to ask yourself how to get her to like you and why she should leave her current boyfriend for you. Basically, you have to get down to the very bottom of these questions and forget all of the things that you hate about yourself for a moment. Convince yourself that you are worth it and convince yourself that she is worth it and you are sure to succeed in learning how to get a girl that has a boyfriend and actually get her in the end.

Get her to leave her boyfriend.

Once you have properly psyched yourself up for the kill while learning how to win a girls heart who has a boyfriend, you can actually go in for the kill and try to get her to leave her boyfriend. To do this, just cozy up to her and ask her exactly what she wants out of a relationship. Then, ask her to compare her dream relationship with the relationship that she has right now. She will then realize that she is currently with a loser who simply doesn’t measure up to what she really wants out of a relationship. That is when you can swoop in, escalate physically, seduce her and completely win her over from the loser she is currently dating.

So there have it: the easiest ways on how to seduce a girl who already has a boyfriend.

Essentially, the most powerful method would still be to use her emotions and take control of it, though, so make sure you use her emotions while following all of the steps mentioned above. Don’t forget to ensure that she doesn’t feel guilty about leaving her boyfriend, either

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O.C. Ukeje On Having A Sugar Mummy: If You Want To Swallow Frogs, Swallow The Big Ones

O.C. Ukeje On Having A Sugar Mummy: If You Want To Swallow Frogs, Swallow The Big Ones

Okechukwu Chukwudi Ukeje, popularly known as O.C Ukeje, won the 2007 Amstel Malta Box Office, AMBO, and did more than just win it, but worked his way into many hearts with an outstanding performance in the award-winning movie, Whitewaters.

He may well be the next Nollywood star to venture into music as he displayed his musical talents in musical movie ‘Hoodrush’ where he featured alongside Bimbo Akintola and another Nollywood star who has proven he can sing, Gabriel Afolayan.

Speaking to Funsho Arogundade on how excited he was playing the role of a singer in the movie which he believed could be a good way to show people he really can sing, he said; “It is really a good way to start because I haven’t officially put any songs on the radio.

“I am happy that my role in the film would actually showcase to the world that I can actually sing. And it is all written there in the script that we recorded the songs ourselves,” he said.

O.C. is achieving his dreams of becoming an international act as he featured in Jeta Amaka’s ‘Black November’ with international stars like Mickey Rourke, Kim Basinger, Hakeem Kae-Kazeem and Vivica Fox. Watch out for him in the movie adaptation of Chimanmanda Adichie’s Half of a Yellow Sun, and also a movie titled ‘Rubicon’ shot in the U.K. in which he was the only home-based Nigerian to feature.

O.C. confessed he’s scared of older women as he advised anyone who is into them to make the best out of it.

“If you want to swallow frog; swallow the big ones,” he said.

Asked why he’s scared of older women, he said; “I am afraid of them because they seem to be more experienced. How would you deal with them since they have been on this earth far longer than you? They are more connected and know more people. You can’t toy with them.

“Even if you are into the relationship with an open-mind and want to back out after a while, what if the woman says no? That’s where the trouble begins. You either get stuck or be dealt with. So, I am conscious of all these.”

Asked if he had been approached by an older woman before, O.C. said: “Of course yes. I have been approached by quite a number of older women.”

O.C. Ukeje decried the demise of Amstel Malta Box Office, AMBO, the show to shot him into limelight. He wondered why acting is not taken seriously in Nigeria.

“That is why I keep saying that we (actors) are the least seriously considered in the entertainment industry. This is because for many years, we never took ourselves seriously and if you don’t take yourself seriously people would never respect you.

“See where music and dance are right now? See the state of comedy industry right now? It is all amazing. But we in the movie sector are the ones that are not seriously considered. It is so sad that AMBO was ruled out by the sponsors,”

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Why Men Should NEVER Move Into A Womans’ House

                                 Why Men Should NEVER Move Into A Womans’ House

A couple years back, I was at my goddaughters bday party being thrown by her parents (both of whom I’m good friends with) at their grandparents house. Like most West Indian family gatherings, the older women were chatting around the kitchen, the older men were standing in the driveway drinking beers and cussing politicians they would like to “drape up”, while the young people played dominos, looked after their troublesome, bigheaded children and argued about EVERYTHING under the sun. At this particular event, the argument of the day was how “WHUTLESS” a man would look for moving into his woman’s house, and how it’s the most UNACCEPTABLE sh*t a man can do.

Now my first instinct was to debate this point with my boys. I told them that every situation is uniquely different and that most women in that scenario would be so happy that her and her man were taking that next big step, she would LOVE the opportunity to turn HER place into THEIR own. The debate was essentially a stalemate – until the older women came downstairs. I smiled, knowing these women were about to help me jump TWO-FEET into the ASS of everyone who was fighting my point down – but that DIDN’T happen. One woman said “Wha kinda BIG MAN wanna hitch his big nasty self under some woman? I COULD NEVER let my daughter stay with a man like that. NEVER!”

Oh, it’s ALL GOOD at the start…

And the worst part about it, was that the other women joined her in not only stating that men who move in with women are frowsy, but that they would NEVER allow their sons to put themselves in the disadvantageous situation of moving into a woman’s home. As far as they are concerned, most women would ALWAYS see it as HER place, as opposed to THEIR place, which would leave his position in the home constantly in a state of peril. I had to back down from this debate, not just because I was alone, but because I was effectively arguing a point that only a WOMAN could argue – and not ONE of the women there agreed with my point of view.

So after taking that L, I decided to start asking my female friends on their thoughts of moving IN with a man, and they all essentially stated the same thing: They would prefer to move out TOGETHER and get their own home. At the same time I was working in financial planning where I sat on MANY couches and had access to a lot of couples money situations, helping me notice one very common, yet disturbing trait:When men make more money than their women, the accumulated household income is considered THEIR money. Yet When women tend to earn more money than their men, the accumulated household income was generally considered HER money. And this perspective was reflective and analogous of how they viewed the homes they lived in [regardless of who made more] because when a couple moved into a new place or the man’s place, it was considered THEIR home. But in the situation where the man moved into the woman’s place, she still had a knack for calling it HER place – and that slightly permeated through her overall outlook on him, their relationship and his BOUNDARIES.



“I told you about them long distance calls bruh. Just pack your sh*t, before I push ya entire back…”

And at that point I had enough empirical evidence to determine that MOST MEN who move INTO their woman’s apartment/condo/townhouse/mansion, etc. will have to deal with MORE territorial boundaries than if the situation was reversed – and what man wants to deal with that BS? I would rather move out into our OWN place where there is at least the PERCEPTION of equal ownership, so if I come home late one night, I can get cussed and banished to the couch, instead of getting cussed and being thrown out of HER house [that we pay an equal share for].

Now, like I said before, there are OBVIOUSLY certain cases where this CAN work because of the woman’s intrinsic outlook on sharing “her’ possessions with her man and combining them into “their” things. But to the dudes out there, if you are INTENT on moving into HER place, just be careful – and keep your momma’s spare keys JUST IN CASE.

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True Confession: I Don’t Want to Sleep With the Devil Again...

True Confession: I Don’t Want to Sleep With the Devil Again...

I have learnt not to follow the heart but the mind. I consider myself a smart and wise woman, however even a wise person can be misled.

My story…

About 25 years ago, I fell in love and married a Igbo guy in the US with the intention to remain married. I worked hard to support him while he attended law school with the hope that he would assist me to get my degree once he finished. However, the moment he got his degree, he realized that he did not want me in his live. He became promiscuous, sleeping with countless young girls all around the place.

Because I am an American, I had fought to keep him in the US after several attempts by the immigration to deport him. I later made him to secure his green card; that was really when the going was good and we all had smiles on our faces. But the good days were short-lived as he abandoned the house, just to go after his numerous concubines and mistresses. To add salt to an open wound, several of his Nigerian concubines became disrespectful, calling the house and warning me to stop calling him, if not they would never allow him back to the house again.

I would always tell them that he was cheating on them, and that if he could cheat on his wife, then what did they think he would do to them”. I should have whipped both their ***, not because they were sleeping with him, but because of the numerous phone calls. Our vows were a contract between him and I so he was wrong no matter the number of “women” that came his way. Not only was his heartless act a thorn in my heart, but for the fact that I’m still paying taxes I owed because of him. This has led to a complicated medical condition, leaving me disabled. I am very Mad and frustrated now.

He has since returned to Nigeria and doing very well as a businessman. I just learnt he is a renowned businessman down there. I have also discovered that he never even told his family back home that he was married to me, and that one of his concubines was his wife.

I still care about this guy. However, a part of me is angry and would always wish he goes through the same pain I went through because of him. He made me look stupid before my family and friends. We have since divorced but chat on and off and even talk about getting back together again. I’m not sure if I can ever fully trust him again; so sleeping with him, I guess would be like “Sleeping with the Devil”.

The experience has left me bitter and don’t trust many people especially African (Igbo) men .

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THINGS A MAN SHOULD DO FOR HIS WIFE ALL THE TIME

This article is for you if you are a guy that is married or are in a very committed relationship with a woman. If you love your girl and want to have a good relationship with her, then here is a list of ten things a man should do for his wife all the time in order to not only promote harmony and happiness but to show her you truly do love her.

1 - Talk to her. One of the things women really want from their men is for him to talk to her. What this means is that she wants meaningful conversion with you. Tell her how you’re doing; your hopes and dreams. Tell her what you’re thinking about when she’s not around. Tell her about what’s on your mind, and listen to her when she responds.

2 - Touch her without expecting more. Women like to feel like they are more than a receptacle for your desire. If you want her to know you love her for more than what she can provide, touch her in gentle ways. Rub her back or feet. Caress her cheek. Things like that.

3 - Open doors for her. Show her you not only love her, but cherish her as well by opening the car door for her before getting in yourself. Open the door at home for her too. Help her with her coat when she comes home. Get her chair for her when she sits down for dinner. All those corny things men used to do in movies. Do it and she’ll see you mean it when you tell her you love her.

4 - Compliment her. Tell her how nice she looks. Or smells. Tell her what a great job she’s done with dinner or in helping you with some errand. Tell her how important she is to you and how your life wouldn’t be nearly as sweet were she not there to share it with you. Whenever she’s done something well or special, tell her so she’ll know you’ve noticed and appreciate what she’s done.

5 - Cook for her. You might be the kind of guy that cooks for her all the time, but you’re probably not. So, occasionally cook an entire meal for her while she relaxes in the tub or in another room. Set the table, cook the meal and then clean up afterward. She’ll love that.

6 - Tell her you love her. Most people don’t tell the people they love often enough how much the other means to them. Break that tradition. If you truly do love her, tell her you love her at least once every single day. More is even better.

7 - Help her. When you marry someone, you’re agreeing to be with them through thick and thin. For better or worse. While generally people see that as being there through the hard times, it also means being there and helping with the small things. Like running errands, or reaching for something on the top shelf. Or buying her a stool for when you’re not around. It means helping with the cleaning and the maintenance of the home. When you help her, you’re making your life a team effort, and this is what builds strong bonds between couples.

8 - Do things with her. Quite often as time passes, couples begin to find more and more things that they like to do individually which leaves less time and energy for doing things together. Keep that from happening by choosing to make doing things together a priority. Go to the grocery store with her, or Christmas shopping. Find things you both enjoy doing for fun and do them. Make your life feel like you’re both in it together no matter what is going on.

9 - Let her make her own decisions. A lot of times men have a way of seeing things and come to decide that their way is right and any other wrong. This can result in men taking over a lot of the decision-making that goes on in the home. Fight this. If you make decisions without consulting your wife, you’re silently telling her that her opinion doesn’t matter to you, which generally leads to a loss of closeness between couples.

10 - Be dependable. Most women have a need to feel like they can count on their men to come through for them when they need it. To ensure that your girl feels this way about you, be dependable in the small things. Be where you say you will be, when you say you will be. And if you say you are going to do something, do it. Don’t let things slip away. It’s the small things in life that add up to someone being considered dependable.

These ten things a man should do for his wife all the time are tips for men who are either married or in a serious committed relationship with a woman. If you are such a man, and wish to sow the seeds for a happy contented marriage, I hope these things will help you. Good luck.

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"He Cheated On Me & He Impregnanted My Cousin, But Now He Wants To Marry Me"

"He Cheated On Me & He Impregnanted My Cousin, But Now He Wants To Marry Me"

I have been with my baby daddy on and off for 6 years.

He is a great man. He treats me and his kids great, but his cheating is the reason we are on and off. I love him to death. He is the father of my children, and from time to time we fight. Yes, he puts his hands on me. I know that he loves me and he doesn’t mean to. I provoke him to do those things. I can deal with the fighting, but the cheating, not coming home and not answering the phone when I call at 4:00 am or 5:00 am, I CANNOT DO.

I left and was gone for about 3 months. One day I went over to pick the kids up (yes his car had gotten repossessed), and my oldest opened the door for me and told me their dad was in his room. So, I went to the back, and opened the door to find him and my FIRST cousin in the bed. TOGETHER! I must have lunged at her full speed and dragged her into the restroom. I beat the -ish out of her there. I got my kids and left. A few more months down the line, needless to say, I went right back to him.

After we got back together I found out I was pregnant again and he made me have an abortion. I started getting depressed. Then I found out that he was back sleeping with my family member again. AND SHE HAD THE BABY!!! But, I love him so much I can’t let him go! He’s even asked to marry me! I said yes, but I’m still not so sure about this. I really love him and I really don’t know if I want to go into a marriage with all this on my chest?!?!?!

Will I be able to forgive him, and for all that he has done to me? He has another child by my cousin, which makes my kids and my cousin kid double cousins. I don’t know if I can take this, but I can’t see him with no one else. I really don’t know what to do. People talk about me behind my back. I don’t have many friends because they said that he has tried to talk to them. I never believed them I have no one to turn to. I’m so stuck in love. Please help me! I need advice. I love him but I know I can do better without him!

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