Does Waiting For S3x Strengthen a Relationship?

 Does Waiting For S3x Strengthen a Relationship?

Sex is good. And for many of us, sex is great. It can make your eyes roll, toes curl, head snap back and legs tremble with so much intensity you think there’s an earthquake happening. But in a blossoming relationship, sex can be risky. If not with the right person, having sex too early will most likely leave you glued to your sofa with puffy eyes and a box of Kleenex—in other words, dude will up and jet as soon as he gets what he wants, burdening you with an achy heart and have you feeling like a complete fool, well unless that’s all you were looking for as well.

Or you might discover that the man you thought was the good, clean-cut man-of-God is a low-down dirty dog who never deserved getting your goods in the first place. Here come the shoulda, coulda, wouldas…

It happens all the time. You wind up in a guy’s bed after going out on the first date or just a few dates, and while you might not get dumped, you spend months falling into his glory only to find that he’s not very honest, not very nice, not very single, or a VERY big man w***e with kids spread all around the globe. Angry and bruised, all you think is, “I wish that I’d kept my legs closed.” We’ve all heard, read, and shared these stories time and time again.

It may be hard to do, but waiting for sex allows you time to forge a deeper connection with your mate. The more you talk—the more you get to know him and learn about his childhood friends, treasured secrets and favorite past times—the deeper your bond will be, which not only makes it easier for him to respect you (and vice versa), but increases your chances of powerful, passionate sex. You see, when you jump right to the covers, sex tends to end up being the basis of the relationship, and if it’s not good, you’ll probably call it quits. With no real feelings involved, you won’t be open to teaching your man how to love you the way you want to be loved, even if he is fully equipped in every other department. No enthusiasm, no passion.

But if you stay strong and keep your panties on tight, you learn to get comfortable with a person, and when the time comes to pour up the wine and throw on the Trey Songz (or much better, Teddy Pendergrass), you won’t be concerned about the small stuff—things you can work around. You won’t worry as much about the things that would’ve driven you mad had you not known your man as well as you do. Your level of respect for one another will supersede all of your flaws—and his—and neither of you will mind looking past everything that matters in relationships based on superficial standards.

If you’re serious about a guy, make sure you make him wait a little while before he gets a chance to get you in the sack. Sex is a powerful thing, and if you decide to knock the boots before you feel him out and know what he’s all about, you could be ruining a chance at something good.

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12 Reasons Why Women Can't Stand Nice Guys

Women say they want a nice guy, yet usually end up dating bad boys. Here's why.

Not real: Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it real”. Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.

Respect: No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect = No attraction.

Predictable: Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable + No excitement + No challenge = I prefer a bad boy.

Mother Nature: Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think that will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.

Fixer-Upper: Nice guys don’t usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.

Sperm wars: Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.

Fear of intimacy: If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.

Low self-esteem: We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you’re not familiar with.

Sex: Women feel a nice guy won’t be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.

Hot: Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn’t hot? I’m sure there are a few, but they wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hot”.

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More married women are cheating – Survey

More married women are cheating – Survey

Whether women are getting more randy or just more honest, the traditional gap between the percentage of married men who admit to having had an affair and the percentage of married women who admit to having had an affair is closing. The 2010 General Social Survey found 14 percent of women admitted to cheating, compared with 19 percent of men.

In 1991, the same survey showed 21 percent of married men knockin’ boots on the down low, way more than the 11 percent of women getting some action on the side — meaning women are growing increasingly unfaithful in their marriages as men grow increasingly committed to their partners. Or conversely, women have started being more upfront with survey questions. Progress? [Source]

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10 PLACES WHERE WOMAN LIKE TO BE TOUCHED

Photos: 10 Places Where Women Like To Be Touched


Forget a woman’s cleavage, there are more erogenous spots that you can explore to get your lady sexcited. Read on to discover her ten most sensuous body parts. What guys often mistake is that they go straight for the woman’s breasts or other private parts, without concentrating on her nine other moan zones.

So, if you want to get your girl into the mood, stimulate some of her often-neglected body parts.
Tresses

                            


All guys like women with gorgeous locks. But what you need to know is that women love being touched on their head. It’s quite a stress reliever.
Running your hands sensuously through her tresses is likely to send shivers down her spine. Massage her temples to the nape of her neck and she’ll be game to your desires.

Nape of her neck

                                       


In ancient Japan, the back of a woman’s neck was considered extremely attractive by men as it was one of the few zones that were not covered by the elaborate kimono.
Today, very few men focus on the nape of the neck, but we suggest you build up the pleasure by gentle touching and kissing your lady love from her hairline down to her shoulders. It will make her reach dizzying heights of pleasure.

Collar bone

                                            

A well-defined collarbone is what men find irresistible. So, why not touch and kiss her there. Unbutton her shirt just a little and stimulate her collarbone with your touch. Create circles with your tongue and give her love bites right there, just to remind her of how much you want her.

Small of her back

                                             

Most women love it when their guy places his protective hand against the small of her back as it shows that he feels very strongly about her.
So, why not incorporate this gesture into your foreplay routine, by kissing or licking down her spine to end up with a kiss on the small of her back. It will definitely get her into the mood for more!

Behind her knees

                                      

This area is a power house of sensitive nerve endings. You can gently caress the back of her knee under her skirt while the two of you are in an open public space as it is sure to get her excited by the time you reach home.

Palms of her hands

            

We use our hands to please our partners, but have you ever thought that you could arouse a woman by stimulating the palm of her hand? Run your finger along her palm as that will make her feel relaxed and ready for a sexy rendezvous ahead.

Her earlobes

This is one of the most erogenous moan centers of a woman’s body. Touching, kissing and even gently biting her earlobes will send her into a sexual tizzy. If you are getting extra adventurous, simply nibble around the outside of the rest of her ear as well, but don’t put your tongue inside her ear. That’s a major turn off!

Happy feet

                                                

There’s nothing more sinfully seductive than a foot massage. It will help her relax, especially if her job requires her to be on them all day. Get yourself some aromatic massage oil or lotion.
Pay extra attention to the pressure points such as her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet too. Some women love enjoy having their toes sucked, but others find it repulsive, so ask your babe what she would have you do before putting them in your mouth.

Soft thighs

Touching a woman’s inner thighs without touching her private parts is the most sensual tease that is sure to get her all charged up.
Employ your hands and mouth to caress and kiss the insides of her thighs but remember to pull back before going all the w

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The pros and cons of long distance love

The pros and cons of long distance love

That dreaded moment has come: your partner’s been offered a job hundreds of miles away. Or perhaps it’s the other way round and you’ve decided to move away. Whatever the circumstances, keeping a relationship going over a long distance isn’t easy. Here are some pros and cons to help you decide whether to put in the effort.

Pros

- With distance between you, there’s no room to take each other for granted. Time spent together is precious, so you both make an effort with your appearance and organise ‘real’ things to do rather than just loll on the sofa in your PJs.

- When your significant other lives in another city, or even country, you have a great opportunity to travel and explore somewhere new. What’s more, you’ll have the inside scoop on all the best bars and restaurants, not to mention free accommodation.

- A long distance relationship can actually be stronger because you’re forced to communicate. In the gaps between visits you can’t sit silently together watching the Great British Bake Off. Instead you have to Skype, chat on the phone, text and email. In other words, you must express yourself and listen. This should help you understand each other better.

- You’re guaranteed time and space to yourself in any long distance relationship. This means there’s no need for other aspects of your life to fall by the wayside. Career goals, friendships, hobbies – you should be able to keep them all on track.

- A long distance relationship is one way to discover if he or she is a keeper. Ordinary romances can limp on, even after they’ve gone stale, simply because they’re easy and convenient. If your partner is far away you don’t have that luxury. The relationship will only last if you both really want it to.

Cons

- Living at a distance is emotionally draining – chiefly because it requires an exceptional level of trust. When someone is miles away, it’s easy to have a creeping sense of dread as you wonder what your partner is doing – and who with. This jealousy is compounded by the fact misunderstandings are more likely when you’re communicating via email and text.

- There’s one obvious downside to a long distance relationship. Not an empty bed, but loneliness. If the relationship is worth anything at all, you really enjoy being in their company. Correspondingly, when that person isn’t around, you’re going to notice.

- Having said that, an empty bed can get depressing when it’s empty for too long. Although you can email or speak to your partner, nothing is a substitute for being cuddled up in bed with the one you love.

- Maintaining a long distance relationship is just as draining on your wallet as your emotions. All those phone calls – plus bus, train or air fares – are going to add up. If you’re determined to keep the romance going, you’ll have to learn to manage your finances.

- There is some doubt as to whether a long distance liaison constitutes a relationship at all. The fact is people who see each other regularly go through a lot more together. This may involve becoming bored of each other, running out of things to say, bickering and fighting – but hey, that stuff’s the bread and butter.

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